Firstly, balance comes and goes. It does not mean that you have to have every part of your life in perfect harmony at all times. In fact, it is rare that we ever truly reach that point and you shouldn’t stress yourself out trying!
Secondly, maybe ‘balance’ is not completely the right word, but maybe just living where you are ‘in-flow’ with your life.
And this brings me to the third point, everyone’s version of balance within their lifestyle is different. You have to learn to understand your body, mind and soul to know when you’re ‘out of balance’ or ‘out of flow’. It is living a life doing what matters most to you and knowing when certain areas of your life might require more attention over others, but not getting yourself stuck there.
Ask yourself: What truly makes you happy? What is priority to you? Where does your passion lie? What do you need to do to help keep that passion alive and your priorities in check?
For example: Say your favourite fitness activities are yoga and crossfit, you want to practice these at least 4 times a week. You also work fulltime (ideally in an area that you are passionate about), you like to meal prep on Sundays, want to catch up with friends and family and plan regular holidays… oh and you have kids and need to walk the dog, plus get adequate sleep and attend to general life admin… Balance you say?! This is where planning and prioritising comes in. Diarising your weeks are so important – write things down and stick to them all. Each week might look different, maybe you have to meal prep mid-week to free up your Sunday for a family function. This is balance – you will make time for things when they become important to you.
And THINGS CHANGE!! I took a break from my corporate role (after years and years of study) because what had previously been important to me had shifted and I could not find the right balance where I currently was.
Some days the kids might need extra cuddles and demand more attention, so be ok with doing less housework or cancelling that playdate… other days they may be ok playing by themselves or have a sleepover, so you paint your nails or have a cuppa in peace.
Let go of the guilt as things happen out of our control.
By Karlee Imogen